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Hi PSmith
Thanks for your reply. 12 years sure puts my 4 in the shade, I am hoping it doesn’t drag on for that long. You are right when you say I am worried about it happening again, and maybe that is the reason I have not entered into another relationship. But I think the biggest reason for not beable to move on is the lack of closure. One minute I was preparing to move out there start a new life with him, the next he just dropped me me as if I was some, one-night-stand, No explainations, no apologises. I deserved more than that and I find it very hard to let go of.
Anyway thanks again for replying and I hope you find someone soon who will love you too.
Welsh
Thanks Katana.
You are right about many things, the no closure and lack of explaination made it worst. And since he lives in the US and me the UK, I can hardly go and bang on his door demanding answers. I did the ripping up of photo’s and stuff and no it didn’t help. It just seems such a long time to be stuck on someone and I know he is the reason why I have not had another relationship. I guess I just need a little more time.
Thanks for taking time to reply
Welsh
Hi Linny
I am not a psychic but just wanted to add a few things. You say you act in front of him as if you’ve moved on. Is that a good idea. Will it give him the incentive to try and get back into your life if he wanted too. If we lie to others about how we are feeling, how then can we expect them to make the right decision when they have the wrong information. I am not preaching here, we all do it at one time or another but I do know that the truth would put an end to your misery sooner than if you play the I’ve moved on card, If you tell him how you feel, he has two choices, he walks away from you or he walks towards you. And if he walks away, well at least you know and you can stop torturing yourself and try and move on.
Another thing you need to think about, its all very well desperately wanted him back, but have you thought of how you would handle it if he did come back. In other words can you forgive him for what he’s done to you, or would you make his life a misery, which is one good way of losing him again.
I hope it all works out for you
Welsh
